I really lucked out with this group, I have found a few mom friends that I really like and get along with well. One of the families actually joined us on our hike last week. In fact, I don't think there is a mom in the group that I dislike. I may connect with a few of the moms better but there is no one that I can say I don't like.
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But as our babies get older and our parenting styles become more apparent (because let's be honest, the newborn phase is just about surviving and the real parenting doesn't happen until your child becomes mobile) I feel a wedge being developed within the group. I don't know if it is subconscious or conscious, but groups are being formed within the playgroup among mommies that have similar parenting ideas. Co-sleeping vs. crib sleeping, formula vs breastfeeding, baby led weaning vs purees, etc.
And I find it really awkward.
Maybe it is because there was no major fall out, and I like those moms. But whenever I try to talk to them, they tend to shut me out, or shut the conversation down.
Several of the playgroup moms go to the library story time every Thursday, and we always tend to sit in the same area. Today the other group of moms sat on the opposite side of the room. No big deal, it was a bit crowded in there today. But afterwards any effort to start a conversation was shot down.
I join a few mom after the library for coffee and park time, it is a regular get together. A couple of the other moms were in the park today as well, and it is a very small park, and they totally ignored us the whole time. And they came in after us, like walked past us without any notice.
I felt sooooo awkward the whole time.
So I think it is official, the playgroup has disbanded in a way. These moms haven't been attending lately either. Why are they so upset by our parenting? I don't care about their style. I guess this article is true.
But it still bothers me, why do we moms always have to compete? Why can we just get along?